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You know the stereotype: young girl is molested at an early age and/or abandoned by her father, causing her to search for validation by spinning around a pole and dancing buck-ass naked for money and attention from random men.  I’m not going to say this stereotype isn’t true because if I did, I would be lying. The fact of the matter is that my father molested me repeatedly when I was in preschool, and then once again when I was fourteen years of age.

Now, this in no way means that every stripper you’ll ever encounter was once molested -- that kind of assumption is just fucking insulting to the ones who had well-adjusted childhoods with appropriately loving parents.  Conversely, not everyone who’s sexually abused as a child grows up to become a stripper.  Let’s face it; we’d have a lot more dancers in this country if this were actually the case.

Let’s look at some statistics:
 1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed rape; 2.8% attempted rape).

In 1995, local child protection service agencies identified 126,000 children who were victims of either substantiated or indicated sexual abuse. Of these, 75% were girls, and nearly 30% were between the age of 4 and 7.

93% of juvenile sexual assault victims know their attacker. 34.2% of attackers were family members. 58.7% were acquaintances. Only 7% of the perpetrators were strangers to the victim.

15% of sexual assault and rape victims are under age 12.

1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed rape; 2.8% attempted rape).

In 1995, local child protection service agencies identified 126,000 children who were victims of either substantiated or indicated sexual abuse. Of these, 75% were girls, and nearly 30% were between the age of 4 and 7.

3% of juvenile sexual assault victims know their attacker. 34.2% of attackers were family members. 58.7% were acquaintances. Only 7% of the perpetrators were strangers to the victim.

15% of sexual assault and rape victims are under age 12.
I know a handful of other women who have confirmed that they were sexually abused as children. This group includes a corporate executive, a hippy, a successful college student, and a high-class (i.e. expensive) escort who caters to overpaid professionals. There were certain psychological consequences of my being abused that have been indispensable to my work as a stripper: namely, a certain self-aware disassociation from myself as a sexual being, a deep-seated craving for validation from older males, and a rebellious disregard for the moral code of a society that didn’t protect me when I needed it most; but there are plenty of women whose experiences didn’t lead them down the particular path I chose.

Rather than accept the banal “truism” that every stripper has daddy issues, why don’t we focus on the fact that the sexual abuse of children is much more common than we’d like to assume. Don’t let the few women who perpetuate this narrow stereotype distract you from the larger, awful truth.


Statistics from: http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims

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The Honest Stripper is a California-based writer who's never had to starve because she takes her clothes off and dry humps strangers for money; she's also a monthly contributer for The Filthy Freedom Project. When she isn't writing or stripping, she's traveling the world, meeting loads of cool people and getting hyphy at parties. She enjoys baking, being craftsy, playing videogames, subverting the patriarchy, and going on nighttime adventures while under the influence of LSD. You can reach her at thehoneststripper@gmail.com

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